It might seem strange to liken your marriage to a business. But similar to some businesses, marriage is a partner-driven enterprise where two separate individuals mutually focus on meeting one goal. Like a successful business, both parties should consider a moral root, document future goals, create strategies to achieve them, as well as conduct progress meetings to mutually communicate advancements. By no means is this an attempy to rob your marriage of intimacy or spontaneity. Or fun! This exercise can be a useful task that encourages communication and understanding as the two of you begin the rest of your lives together.
So where to begin?
Discuss Your Moral Center | Write Down Your Shared Vision
Your moral center is not what you do or where you come from, but rather what you stand for, believe in, and what dictates your everyday actions. Your moral center is similar to the operating system that guides a computer. No matter how sophisticated the computer is, all the programs and tools behave in accordance with the integrity of its operating system. If the system is corrupted, you will notice life becomes extremely difficult. How you problem solve, what you do with your money, how you spend your time, and how you raise your children are all dictated by your moral center. It is important for married couples to be unified on the moral stance or there will eventually be friction in the household.
Proverbs 29:18 (KJV) Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
Tip* it is always good to have an unbiased third party that can provide accountability should issues arise in the office. Similar to any HR Department, your third party should be invested in seeing your MUTUAL success, and should withhold bias (so parents, friends, and family are off limits) and aware of company policies and procedures. For my wife and me, our church counselor is our third party. Marriage counselors and therapists are also great options.
Set Goals Then Prioritize Them In a Strategic Plan
Once a moral center has been agreed upon, the next step is to discuss individual and mutual goals. Once all of your goals are written down, filter each of them through your moral center. Remember everything works in accordance with your operating system. After you've filtered your goals, list each one in order of its importance. Whatever the goals are, it is important to write them down and create a strategic plan that works to mutually attain them within an agreeable window of time.
Create Job Descriptions and Family Policies
Creating Job Descriptions for each other is an excellent opportunity for husbands and wives to discuss what they need from one another on a daily basis. Create job descriptions and household rules not just for yourself, but also for your children.
Performance Review | Staff Meetings
Make an effort to discuss progress in your home. Discuss how your children and spouse are performing in their day to day roles and how that performance has impacted your strategic plan.
Are you ready and willing to run your marriage like a business? Let us know in the comments!
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